A Message For Me
I'm sitting here at my desk with a stack of envelopes in front of me. My six- (and a half, M-O-M, sheesh) year-old daughter and five-year-old son spent two hours asking for more paper, and more envelopes. And more paper again. And some more envelopes.
I got short with them a few times. "I just gave you a stack of paper!" and "I need some of those envelopes. You can't have them all."
My daughter spends a lot of time making invitations to her future birthday parties, so I figured that was what she was up to. My son usually spends his time drawing the same animals over and over. An elephant, a brontosaur, a penguin and a 'cantaloupe' which is really an antelope. Oh! And he draws giraffes. He also draws a representation of our van. He draws all of these things and then asks me to cut them out so that he can play with them.
I've lost my temper over that, too. I get tired of cutting out 'cantaloupes' and giraffes. When I asked him why he didn't just keep the pictures, he told me that he was using these drawings to reinact our Safari West trip, so that "it would stay alive in his heart forever." That was good for a few more cut-outs. I'm a sucker for his dramatics.
Anyway, after handing over half a ream of paper and about 30 envelopes, I caught the kids trying to sneak out the front door.
"Where are you going?" They looked at me sheepishly, and said "we're going to the mailbox to mail our letters."
I had a bunch of flylady stickers (don't ask) and they had used them for stamps. I asked them who the letters were for, and they hid them behind their backs.
"The mail carrier won't take those, I don't think, unless you have the postage."
"M-O-M-M-Y - can you go over there please?" The kids had a whispered pow-wow.
I went into the kitchen and waited. The kids came around the corner, arms linked. They smiled at me and said "Special Delivery for M-O-M-M-Y!" They pressed 20 fat envelopes into my hands. I looked at the first one.
Frume Me
Too Mommy
The next one was different.
"Mommy" was encased in a giant, crooked heart.
The third was a variation on the same theme.
I thanked the little letter writing fools, and opened the first one. Scrawled across the clumsily folded page was a drawing of an elephant with a huge smile and giant teeth. I (Heart) U Mom was written in my son's shaky hand underneath.
The next letter was more polished. I love you mommy evun if you don get me a hors. It was signed with a curly-cue flourish, this time in my daughter's cursive.
On and on I read. Each letter was different, but all of them are love notes. I'll bundle them up and put them in my keepsake box.
I feel like an ass for assuming that their use of paper (all $2 worth) and envelopes (maybe $1) was wasteful. Instead, I got 20 love letters from my two oldest children. A priceless gift, and a perfect reminder to lighten up.
Comments
Awwwww! This happened to me a few weeks ago when I was in bed "sick" (martini poisoning) and hubs was letting me sleep in. Except I kept hearing the kids come in and *rustle, rustle, rustle* around. Eventually, I got pissed & yelled at them. When I finally dragged my butt out of bed, I found a stack of construction paper "get well Mommy" cards & pictures on my nightstand. I suck.
Posted by: buffi | November 15, 2005 9:42 PM
For me, the frustration is the mess they leave behind... but even that is dimmed by the fact that they spend hours being creative, thoughtful and QUIET!!! In our house all the stationary (and glue and scotch tape and jars full of markers and old checkbook stubs and letters and sheets of old defunct policies and junk mail) is called 'portant stuff. The 'portant stuff is the best and most inexpensive toy in the word!
Thanks for the reminder to lighten up!
Posted by: Amber | November 16, 2005 12:43 AM
Awesome! I love love notes from children! It's especially nice when the 15 (and a half, mommmmmmmmm) does it - though it generally means she's about to hit me up for a body piercing, a tattoo or money in large sums.
Posted by: Denise | November 16, 2005 4:30 AM
That was TOO sweet!
Posted by: Grace | November 16, 2005 5:07 AM
I also love you, even if you don get me a hors. ;)
Posted by: Mir | November 16, 2005 5:18 AM
Aww, how sweet. Sometimes kids just surprise you with stuff like that, usually after you've yelled and been grumpy because you thought they were doing something else. (The "you" here is me, not you. Okay, that's confusing.)
Posted by: Stephanie C. | November 16, 2005 5:37 AM
oh my god... you're going to make me cry.
Posted by: Tricyclist | November 16, 2005 5:55 AM
My daughters and I are familiar with the FlyLady. She would say she never knew me if she visited today and saw my house! She did teach me a couple routines that I can't help but to do them. Every morning and every night.
Posted by: Erin | November 16, 2005 6:16 AM
Awww, that made my Grinch-like heart melt! Very sweet, and yes, a good reminder to us all to lighten up!
Posted by: Melanie Lynne Hauser | November 16, 2005 6:33 AM
You're raising some lovely children...be sure to pull our those dear, sweet letters when they're teenagers! All of the sweet things they do as little ones are what keep you from killing them when they get older!
Posted by: Lin | November 16, 2005 8:50 AM
OMG I think that is the sweetest thing I have ever heard!
Posted by: Candice | November 16, 2005 11:04 AM
I love it, My girls do the exact same thing. Gobs and gobs of office supplies but then I get these fabulous letters and drawings in homemade envelopes. I buy scotch tape in bulk regularly at Costco. It's the just what I have to do!
Posted by: Marcia | November 16, 2005 2:27 PM
OMG! They are such little sweet things!
Why can't we all just stay that way our whole lives?
Posted by: Miss Jackie | November 16, 2005 4:53 PM
There's nothing like when your kid makes you feel like a total schmuck.
We all need to be reminded to lighten up, probably daily. Eh, make that hourly.
Posted by: Mary | November 18, 2005 7:31 PM