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Mother Talk Blog Tour - Babyproofing Your Marriage

Today is Three Kid Circus's stop on this week's Mother Talk Blog Tour for the highly anticipated new book Babyproofing Your Marriage. The tagline reads: How to laugh more, argue less, and communicate better as your family grows. I think most marriages could do with a few helpful pointers in those areas, right?

I'll admit, when I first cracked open Babyproofing Your Marriage, I was put off. I did my usual open the cover, jump around reading random pages, scan the final pages, and I wasn't ready for what I found. At first pass, the language seemed flippant, the anecdotes I read seemed overly negative, and the vibe of the book seemed harsh.

Don't do what I did. Start at the beginning, and read the book as it is meant to be read. Despite my initial reaction, I settled down into a chair after a long day, and dove in. When I surfaced several hours later, pages were turned down, passages were highlighted, and my husband was reading over my shoulder. I honestly think my knee-jerk reaction to the first few anecdotes and passages I read was due to the real-life experience I have with many of the emotions and realities recounted in this book.

Stacie Cockrell, Cathy O'Neill and Julia Stone are all longtime friends, and it comes across in the writing. The tone is chatty, humorous and down-to-earth. The three authors have seven children between them, "...none of whom have yet set foot in a Kindergarten. Needless to say, we lived this book as we wrote it." Ah, my favorite kind of 'experts!' Those that are walking the walk, not just talking the talk.

Cockrell, O'Neill and Stone conducted a bazillion interviews with parents, and present the good, the bad and the ugly in a straight-forward manner. They note early on:

Athough this book is written by women, men get a fair shake and a loud shout. This is not a girl's bitch session; though we don't pull any punches. We've done our best to get the guys' side of the story straight. We didn't always like what they had to say, but we can pretty much guarantee that whether you are a man or a woman, something in here is going to tick you off. Fair enough. Just try to keep an open mind. We found that even the most inflammatory comments helped us learn something.

With my mind locked in the open position, I jumped in. With chapters discussing everything from keeping score to the "Sex Life" of New Parents, dealing with extended family and adding more children to the family, the authors leap right into the middle of the subjects that most new parents struggle with. Even eight years after the birth of my first child, I still found myself wincing over some of these problem areas. Babyproofing Your Marriage is written with newbie parents in mind, but many of their astute observations and troubleshooting tips can be applied by seasoned parents as well.

My appreciation for Babyproofing Your Marriage continues to grow as I reflect back on some of the passages I reacted strongly to. Even though I've hashed over these trouble spots with friends time and again, and I know that most of my friends had similar struggles, it would have been very empowering to know that some of these problems are almost universal, especially as a newly minted parent.

Babyproofing Your Marriage offers tools to get the conversation started, and suggestions for resolving some of the strife that comes from adding a new member to the family. I think that Babyproofing Your Marriage is a great addition to the growing library of parenting books that tell it like it really is.

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Hi Jenny,

This is Stacie Cockrell, one of the co-authors of BPYM. Thank you for your wonderful comments! You hit on one of the most important messages of our book: "you are not alone." Once we realized that these post-baby issues are "normal," our own marriages improved dramatically. Thanks for helping us spread the word!

I would like to ask a favor of you, please be an angel.
Please send a note or post card to, Miranda and Jordan.
I would like the assistance of every person I know and would like to have this email forwarded with the same request to every person they know because I'm looking for angels.

I'm asking for this favor because Miranda and Jordan are alienated by their father. It no longer matter how it came to be, it just is and the simplest way to explain it, is to say they are children who aren't allowed to love their mother.
It's interesting because I know brand development and one of the most important means to accomplish brand notariety is through the consistency of touch points, in advertising and marketing, the greatest number of impressions possible is key. Alienation is negative branding. Positive messages are powerful, but according to text book data, 16 positives messages are needed to counter each negative message. This is why I need angels and why I would like to reach as many people as possible.

I used sing a song to them every night, it came from a poem I wrote for them and in my song I include, the phrase, "...on angels wings my kiss to you, forever will my love be true."

I'm looking for Angels to help me send one message to these two young girls.
They are not allowed access to a computer, so a card or paper, stamp and a little time is needed.
Send a message with a prayer. Thank you.

Their address is
13 Dove Street
Aliso Viejo, CA 92656

Please write the following:

"On Angels wings my kiss to you, forever will my love be true. This is a message from your mom, signed ___(your name here)_______Angel"

Thank you so very much for your time and consideration.