My daughter pulled a chair up to the sink yesterday afternoon to "help" while I washed some dishes. We talked about my day (breakfast out) and her day (pretty good) and then she floored me.
"Mommy, do you think I'm going to be popular when I'm in high school?" She turned her green eyes on me and blinked slowly while I furiously scrubbed at an already clean plate.
"Depends on what you mean by popular, I suppose." I was stalling. I didn't know what to say.
"You know, cool." She rolled her eyes.
Although I was well-liked, I suppose, I wasn't one of the "in-crowd" in high school. I had a great group of friends, participated in the music program, had co-workers that I enjoyed, and a couple of really good friends that I still see frequently, but if you would have asked me then, I would have told you that I wasn't popular.
Having a wide circle of friends and loved ones, even if I don't see them daily, makes me feel like I'm part of something larger. Something accepting and wonderful. But am I popular? Who decides that? Who even cares?
I looked her in the eyes, and told her that she shouldn't worry about being "popular" in school.
"Nurture your friendships with kind friends who like you for who you are. That's so much better than trying to be "cool."
She rolled her eyes again. I gave her a soapy hug and told her she is already cool. She laughed and said:
"Mom, you're pretty cool, too."
Before I forget to mention it - I have my review of the Saturn Vue up at TKC Auditions. That was a great week! If anyone in the SF Bay Area is in the market for a new Saturn, Ryan Murphy at Saturn of Santa Rosa is the guy to talk to.